The Reality of Dealing with Grief During the Holidays
The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy and togetherness. However, for those struggling with grief, depression, or navigating the challenges of a recent separation in their family, this time of year can feel anything but festive. Many people struggle during this season, feeling isolated amid the celebrations. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings and know there are ways to find comfort, healing, and support.
The Struggles of Grief and Depression
Grief and depression can manifest differently for everyone. Grief may surface as sadness, longing, or even guilt, especially when traditions remind you of your loss. Depression might make it hard to feel motivated, leaving you withdrawn or fatigued during a season of activity. For newly separated parents, navigating family dynamics, co-parenting schedules, and the desire to create meaningful holiday memories for your children can amplify feelings of stress and inadequacy.
Recognizing these feelings is the first step in addressing them. It’s okay to not feel “okay” during the holidays, and acknowledging your emotions can help you begin the process of healing.
Family Grief Therapy and Counseling
While counseling offers the greatest support for most people when it comes to dealing with mental health issues, we understand that you can’t always be sitting in a counselor’s office. Coping and processing things at home is essential for enjoying the holidays. While no solution can instantly lift the weight of grief or depression, these strategies can help you manage your emotions and find moments of peace.
Set Realistic Expectations
It’s easy to feel pressured to create the perfect holiday, especially when surrounded by cheerful social media posts or advertisements. Remember, it’s okay to scale back. Focus on small, meaningful moments rather than trying to recreate traditions or meet expectations.
Create New Traditions
If old traditions feel too painful, consider starting something new. This could be as simple as taking a holiday walk, lighting a candle in memory of a loved one, or volunteering to help those in need. New traditions can bring comfort and give you a fresh perspective.
Prioritize Self-Care
Take time to care for yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. This might mean ensuring you get enough sleep, maintaining a balanced diet, or engaging in activities that bring you joy, like reading, crafting, or listening to joyful music.
Allow Yourself to Feel
Suppressing emotions often intensifies them. Permit yourself to feel sadness, anger, or even joy when it arises. Journaling or talking to a trusted friend can provide an outlet for processing these emotions.
Set Boundaries
If gatherings feel overwhelming, limiting your participation or skipping them entirely is okay. Communicate your needs with family and friends, letting them know you focus on your well-being.
Seek Support from Loved Ones
Let others know how they can support you. Whether having a friend check-in, joining a support group, or simply spending time with someone who understands, leaning on others can provide comfort.
How We Can Help
At NorthStar Regional, we offer both in-person and telehealth counseling options. We work with you to find the best solutions for you. We don’t want only to help you in the short term; our counselors seek to help you find long-term solutions for your grief and depression. Find a location near you and find your best self before the new year.
